The White Christian American Church and Shame
My father was tricked into not believing me. My godfather didn’t protect me. The minister didn’t save or believe me (but allowed others to be hurt as I was). The youth pastor didn’t protect me. Eventually, my husband wouldn’t protect me. Each and every “man” in my life didn’t do the one thing they could have done for their daughter, member of a church family, or wife… protect. So… please tell me why I would feel safe with any man?????? Or safe in any church??? Is this my fault? Men shamed me to the point of not being able to function. Men shamed me through and in the name of God. At 9, it was my fault. At 15, the church made me out to be a liar to my family when all I was trying to do was protect other children. At 22, I was told, “It’s a job, isn’t it?” So, if you can’t understand why some people can’t find love in the sex that helped destroy their life (that only God could and DOES put back together - since He knew I couldn’t trust ‘man’) you’re probably someone who uses fear and sha...